Relationships! Part 2

I am so not a Computer person! I posted this last night and then it was gone, I probably pushed a button that i was not suppoed to!?!?!?! So here it is again!

WTF! Relationships?????? I am so not the right person to talk about this, but on my last post I touched on it, so I’m going to give this a shot. Let’s see what makes us happy?

What type of person are you looking for to make you HAPPY? This list is in NO particular order, I don’t want to get a bunch of comments about the importance of one thing over another! LOL

Funny, Smart, Beautiful Eyes, Caring, Good Listener, Same Interest, Complete Opposite, Sexy, Handsome, Hot Body, Great Ass, Snazzy Dresser, Good Job, $$$$, Compassionate, Outgoing, Deep Thinker, Good Cuddler,  Bla, Bla, Bla, you get the point.

Where do you find the person that will make you HAPPY? Almost all of us know that the club is probably not the best place to find happiness. How about the vegetable section in the grocery store, at the gym, in Church, in the work lunch room or a blind date through a friend? If your too busy for all of that then you have the internet and the endless amount of different sites offering “legit” relationship connections, that interview you and find the most compatible match, using psychology and questionnaires. Or the option of the “dark side” (insert Darth Vader theme music here!) where you post a half-naked selfie with your best ducklips and hope for as many hits as possible?!?!?!?!?.

I’m more confused now then I was before this post, but I’m a guy so I’m always confused about relationships?

Sigh?. . . . . . . that’s a lot to think about. HELLO!!!!! WAKE UP! None of that shit really matters, still we are missing what’s important. If you are not HAPPY with you, how is a relationship ever expected to make you happy? The person your with or that you find should not make you happy. They should add to your happiness. The bottom line is this, be yourself, be happy, do all the little things that make you a happier person. Genuine happiness is one of the sexiest qualities in a person!

Keep working on being happy and the one for you will see that!

Please comment on what makes you happy! Share and follow.

Happiness, where is mine?

You might hear it all the time from your family and friends, you deserve to be happy or I’m glad to see your new _____________ (boyfriend, girlfriend, job etc.) makes you happy.

Does any of that really make you happy?

Is finding that special someone who makes you laugh, feel good and adorned making you happy? If you are not happy with you, how could you be happy with anyone else. Eventually it fades and you find yourself in the same relationship pattern. Another person can make you feel happy, but you can’t find happiness through someone else. A 16 year marriage that broke, searching for the someone to make me happy finding them and then loosing them! why cause I wasn’t happy. Argh! relationships! This is whole other blog!

Your job! I only know a very small amount of people who actually love their job. I mean are so passionate about it you can feel it when you are near them. The rest of us go about our daily lives to try to get a raise, get the promotion, get the bonus! We waste so much of our lives to advance our career when we eventually get what we want the euphoric feeling fades quickly. Now on to the next promotion. Crazy way to live! My past job was this, wake up early head to work, put in 10-12 hours go home sleep repeat. I worked really hard to gain a title and the paycheck to go along with it. Still I was never happy, I kept getting bigger houses and accumulation more materialistic items. Still not happy. The effect of working like this is detrimental on your relationships and family, I have missed many moments in my children’s lives and my life because of work.

I thought I had everyone fooled when I walked around all perky upbeat, smiling and laughing. I very well might have had them all fooled, but I was crashing on the inside. I was always as the strong one, the one who could do anything, get through anything. So for months and months that’s what I did. I was big strong Corey! What a dark and lonely road. I started to looked at myself and tried to figure out how to be happy. I refused to be miserable, I refused to mope around and hate the world, the world that I had created.

Then I asked myself the question, Happiness, where’s mine?

Then more questions, Did I deserve happiness? Was it my right? Who was going to give it to me? What was going to make me happy?

I was looking in all the wrong places. Asking all the wrong questions. I really needed to start looking at myself in my own head! It has to start with me. What a scary place my head was, to many demons, too much hurt and too much panic. I created this shit world I was in, only I could make it the world I want to be in. Make it my Happy Place( Happy Gilmore) Awesome movie!

So that’s what I started to do. . . . . . .

 

 

 

 

Um, hello? What have I started?

I’m Corey, this is the beginning of my journey. I’m on the search for what truly is “HAPPY”. Will this blog miraculously make you happy! Of course it will! NO! no it won’t, sorry. This is not a “how to” or a “quick fix” to find happiness. I want to figure out what truly makes people happy. To connect with others who are looking for this elusive, mystical thing called HAPPINESS. Sometimes I think It might be easier to find a Sasquatch, leprechaun or the ever popular unicorn! Who is Corey? I am just like everyone else, I’ve lived my life trying not to make too many mistakes, I have learned something from most of them. . . eventually. I want to share with everyone what I think is happy through my life, mistakes and observations of the world around me. I want to be transparent and let me know your thoughts on what I post. How do you find happiness? what is your happy? This is The Happiness Project, let the evolution and search begin.